However, even today, once a couple can look beyond the social taboos and get past any initial awkwardness, spanking becomes surprisingly natural.

All of that said, I just wish we could be more open with our desires and not looked down upon for wanting that M/f relationship. It was not at all like the stick my mother used to have and I had to get half naked and kneel up on the bed. It is true that a spanking that is too short or too light will rarely get the job one, and one that is too severe might not bear the necessary fruit either. My wife knows that before a spankings she goes to the place I usually deliver discipline, undresses from the waist down (or completely), and kneels there waiting for me.I’m not sure if I’m the only one but I have such a extremely high pain tolerance that when we first started he would stop because of the condition of my backside before I ever used my safe word, even when it was suppose to be a discipline style.

A husband can keep his wife soft to him by showing complete command in bed, and also keeping her on her knees, pleasing her husband giving head. There is obviously more though, and I find that once couples get started, they learn a lot on their own.Part of that role is insisting that you be treated with respect, just as you should treat her with respect. I find myself actually pushing buttons, subconsciously even, to test a man and see if he will punish me. hm, I think it’s not men’s sole responsibility for this – our culture inhibits “manly” behavior, and does so at an increasing speed. These are just some ways he could work on keeping you submissive, and some tips in giving a spanking. At the same time, the woman being disciplined is undergoing an equally transformative experience as she feels the man take control of her mind by applying genuine pain to her bottom.